Dynamite? Seriously?

Time is this interesting value that we attempt to gain more of but must spend it as it is gained. There is no saving or storing of time. It must be use as soon as it is received. So, I must chose to spend more of it blogging instead of just thinking about blogging. I think a thought and say to myself, I'm going to blog about that' and then I don't. When in the past I had trouble getting thoughts out of my head; now it seem almost as if just the thought of blogging about it gets it out of my head. Posting it on the blog in my mind. A mental state of letting go. Since I am here and have thoughts I decided to write.

Perception, assumption, and then expectation. This is my cycle. How I survive day to day with in the laws that the world is given by. But daily I am reminded to not apply this structure to people. One of the ways I am reminded is because someone does it to me. Overall, I'm a nice guy. Sometimes too nice for my own good and the good of my dating life. So that is what others perceive me as. Then they assume that it applies to all times and to all people. Then they expect it.

I decide little on the spot or at the moment unless the situation is dire and requires it. Normally I come to a realization that I do not really enjoy spending time around someone when I am in a time of reflection on my own. An example is a person that I do not like being around because of how their humor is demeaning. Poking fun is ok because it is light hearted and a one time thing but when a person's entire form of communication is this way it becomes tiresome.

Then a time comes when this person continues this 'humor' with me after I have already decided previously that I don't enjoy their company and I give them the cold shoulder. Then they completely shut down and say that I'm being mean. Really? That is a little overkill, yes? Like dynamite to open a stuck lid on a jar of strawberry jam. Really? You waste whatever chance you had at tasting the jelly (my friendship) when you over reacted with dynamite.

'Taking a break' is for the unhappy. Allowing yourself the choice to go back and to change what has happened is unhealthy and makes you unhappy. It is far better to write down your reasoning for doing something and then move on. If you ever start to fall into the 'grass is greener' trap just go look but at your reasoning for leaving. You will not attempt to reopen the option after you remember the many many reason you made the change in the first place.

Someone called me a PC the other day. Yes this person is an intellectual (extreme geek). I asked, 'why?' "Well others are very specified and are good at what they do. Like a Mac. But you, do everything alright but are horrible at drawing pretty pictures." they replied. In disbelief my feeling resulted to defensive and I exclaimed, "I can draw things well! I just need to look at them and break it down into smaller, repeatable sections." Promptly they replied, "Exactly."